The wondering wandering Jew

I’m pretty sure that most of us have our own Promised Land that we yearn for.  A land flowing with our own version of milk & honey.   I have actively started searching for what our life will be like once we finish up our time in Cambodia.  With our oldest two kids rapidly approaching their teens I feel the need to provide them with some semblance of a social life.  Something that sadly can’t be done in rural Cambodia. 

Thankfully my husband seems to be on the same page as me when it comes to our future existence.  We both long to be part of a community.  A place where families have the time to be part of each others lives.  Spontaneous meals.  Lots of time wrestling out the questions of life through lively chats.  Kids having access to a whole bunch of ‘aunts & uncles’.   Focusing on the simple things in life and not getting caught up in the ‘get fest’ of consumer society.  On top of that being able to eat local food and growing a lot of it ourselves would be highly sought after bonuses.  Too much to ask for?? 

As it turned out our search began on the 1/1/11.  Not a bad date to begin.   Our Holy Grail began in the hills of  Queensland.  After three days we came away with our heads spinning.  Yes the option of natural living was there...but the communal thing was sadly lacking.  We then had a mini visit to inner city Brisbane where  we wouldn’t have the option of nature...but the communal thing seemed to be thriving.  On top of that there was the whole social justice aspect that our family seems to be drawn to.  Perfect!  The excitement lasted  about 12 hours.  Until I got online to look for real estate and nearly passed out when I saw the current property prices. 

All this highlighted to me that no matter how much we yearn for community...we don’t want it to come at the cost of financial stress either.

So now our search has pretty much been narrowed down to this:

Communal Living (with a social justice twist if possible)

Affordable Living (with a comfortable twist if possible)

Too much to ask for???  

It seems so. 

But what I have to ask myself is this.  Surely there are lots of individuals & families like us?  People who have an intolerance to mainstream affluenza.  People who crave the same ideals that we do.  Thing is, I don’t know where to find them.   I’m tempted to get two massive posters.  Some paint.  Then in big letters “HONK IF YOU CRAVE COMMUNITY.”    Hang that around my neck and see who I can attract. 

In the meantime my Inner Emo is alive and well.  Surfacing throughout the day singing songs of loneliness and longing.

By the rivers of Adelaide I sat down and wept.

My Non-Educational Thoughts on Curriculum

Here's an article I wrote about three or four years ago.  Figured some of you might enjoy it.

I've been a home school mum for over a year now. Something to be proud of, I know. Initially I was happy if I survived a month... then a term... and now with a little bit of hindsight I'm kind of thinking that maybe its not so hard after all. There is one thing in particular though that hangs over my head like a dark cloud.

It's that eternal question that pops up when I least expect it... ‘Which curriculum are you using?’ I know, I know... people just can’t help themselves. It goes hand in hand when mentioning that I home-school. In the same way that children get asked how old they are and mothers of babies are asked ‘is he a good baby?’

In my opinion, the word ‘curriculum’, like other words that have that dreaded ‘rr’ in them, should be removed all together from this planet.
No one would disagree with me that terrorism, hemorrhoids and cardiac arrest are things that we could all do without. So why not get rid of the curriculum concept as well? Just think... it would make homeschooling so much more enticing.

Imagine the education department sending their rep over to your home to make sure that your children were being properly educated. They would make sure that your child was spending most of their day outside in the fresh air. They would then deduct points if they felt that your child’s day looked too similar to the day before. The rep would ‘tsk tsk’ when seeing work that looked repetitive and practically faint when presented with a daily schedule.

In many ways, a curriculum for a home-school family reminds me of a birthing plan for the pregnant couple. It's a fairly standard procedure these days for the doctor or midwife to sit down with the couple and discuss what sort of ideas they have in mind for the impending birth. The options are endless. Water births, epidurals, medical students being present and so on. Reality is though... that once the woman is about five centimeters dilated, the birthing plan - along with the scented candles, whale sounds CD and the massage oils get thrown out the window. The rest of the labour is then able to progress as nature intended. It's a completely acceptable practice to spend ages discussing a birth plan and then having it discarded within moments of that first contraction. Let’s embrace that for the home-schooling family as well. Let's allow the dialogue about curriculum to take place... but once that first cramp happens... let's ditch it and allow nature to take its course.

As much as I’m in awe of families that have their day planned out... as much as I come away from their home with my head hanging in shame, I have to wonder…
How do you design a curriculum that makes room for a spontaneous trip to the beach... that lasts all day... where you just can't pull yourself away from the magical sand castle so you come home after bed time with sand in your hair and exhausted smiles on your faces. A curriculum that then allows the next day to not even start till after ten because everyone needs to stay in bed and recharge.
Or a curriculum that allows for the kids to venture down to the nature reserve at the back of your house. They pack their own lunch and don’t come back for hours. Eventually in the late afternoon they return with stories about waterfalls from the latest downpour, finding blue tongue lizards and catching yabbies with their bare hands.

Or a curriculum that caters to younger siblings who urgently need help to build the biggest Duplo tower ever and then decide that they no longer need morning naps?

For the life of me I just can’t see how a home-school curriculum can in anyway go hand in hand with children who wake up in the morning ready to create, explore and have that zest for life that is so rare these days.

Yes my kids are doing maths most days. Yes they write stuff about their lives or stories that they create. And yes... if I can pull myself away from the endless dirty dishes I try to make a point of correcting their spelling and so on. But to be honest, other than that our days just happen. I figure that they are learning so much from the books they devour, the cubbies they are building, the dance routines they choreograph and the time spent helping in the home.

Their dad gets involved with the occasional science lesson (thankfully I'm not expected to help out in that department) and he is available at dinner times for vital questions about friction and distances in space. We are also blessed with a multi talented friend that teaches the kids anything from fire twirling to crocheting colourful beanies.

I long for the day I can stand tall when asked about my home-school curriculum. When with a straight face and with full confidence I can say, ‘We follow the highly sought after... “spontaneous” approach’.